December calendar pages on the ground, time passing

End of Year Reflections: Letting go & Holding On

Last Thursday I facilitated the final Virtual Café for 2021. The initial conversation starter I presented the group:

As 2021 comes to a close and 2022 begins, what will you leave behind and what will you take with you?

First folks had a chance to talk in small groups of 3 and 4 people. Then a few shared with the full group.

All sorts of answers arose:

Leaving behind…

  • Achievement addiction
  • People pleasing
  • Perfectionism
  • Overwhelm
  • Being hard on yourself

Taking with…

  • Boundary setting
  • Simplicity
  • Focus
  • Worth/value
  • Ease

The “taking with” list makes me exhale.

How about you?

red cubes showing year change 2021 to 2022

As for me, I’m shedding a few “formalities” including:

  • Pushing too hard for something I may be good at but don’t want
  • Work that isn’t fun (this is belief I heard from family. It’s been a doozy to relinquish!)

What I’m taking with me

  • Fun
  • Ease
  • Purpose
  • Power
  • Profit

Letting go can feel exhausting, because, well, holding on is a lot of work!

So, in the final weeks of 2021 I’m taking time to recharge and refocus to ensure I have the energy to put myself out there in a more powerful way to solve the problems I want to solve (more on that at the beginning of 2022).

Your turn to talk to me/Questions for reflection

As 2021 comes to a close and 2022 begins…

  • What will you leave behind that no longer serves you?
  • What will you take with you that works?
  • How will you recharge and refocus?

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