Comments for Stacey Shipman

Comment on Curve Balls by Rhonda Tardif

Rhonda Tardif — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:44:38 +0000

I like the positive attitudes here And I love Tess’ description “as long as I
don’t unpack and take up residence.” That’s good. I’ve called it landing in
the ditch and rolling around in the mud and slime before realizing you
really can get up out of there.

Comment on What’s the Word? by The Word for 2012: CONNECT

The Word for 2012: CONNECT — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 12:59:58 +0000

[...] 2011 I chose the word ACTION. In 2011 I took action towards a career vision that had lurked for 5 years. I created Healthy South [...]

Comment on When Meditation Helps Find Clarity by Joyce

Joyce — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 17:23:23 +0000

The right words to read at the absolutely right time.

Comment on What Are Your Plans for 2011? by End of Year Reflections & Happy New Year!

End of Year Reflections & Happy New Year! — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 16:52:03 +0000

[...] I look back on my plans for 2011 I learned [...]

Comment on What is This Blog About? by Susan

Susan — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 16:06:21 +0000

I recently came across your site and have been reading along. I thought I would leave my first comment. I don't know what to say except that I have enjoyed reading. Nice blog. I will keep visiting this blog very often. Susan Cure for Sweaty Feet

Comment on Do You Worry About What Other People Think? by Dee

Dee — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 18:09:59 +0000

This has been haunting me for years. I have always been addicted to approval and the good light of everyone else. I try to remember that I’m not them and they’re not me and I never have to have THEIR feelings in my whole life. I also read a lot of self help books and they all say that its ridiculous to care. I am determined to get there one day.

Comment on What is This Blog About? by Lance

Lance — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 21:48:30 +0000

Stacey,
…it’s a journey, isn’t it…

And it’s all good – the thing is, as you (and as I) continue on this journey – mindfully choosing what matters – we connect at an even more meaningful level.

So, know that I’m excited for you, and for this journey that you continue on…and for what this space is continuing to evolve into.

Comment on Why I Procrastinate by Vicki Donlan

Vicki Donlan — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 15:03:27 +0000

Procrastination often stems from an early life experience of receiving no positive feedback for action or having problems disappear before they are acted on. The “if I wait long enough maybe I won’t have to do it at all” theory rarely works, particularly for adults, because if we don’t act there is no result.
Procrastinators can be turned into action-takers by setting up a reward system. When action is rewarded by positive feedback by others or even oneself- the behavior can be changed. So the next time you have the desire to wait before moving forward with the task at hand promise yourself something special – as small as a walk around the block right after you finish the task. You’ll get the job done, enjoy the reward and feel great about yourself.

Comment on Why I Procrastinate by Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 15:57:45 +0000

Hi Stacey — I like your comment about how telling ourselves “come on, just do it” can actually create the opposite of the intended effect. For some people, in my experience, putting off a project is actually a form of rebellion against parent-figures who told them to “just do it” and perhaps called them stupid or lazy for not “just doing it.” So, telling them “come on, get up and go” can just reinforce the same behavior pattern.

Comment on Do You Worry About What Other People Think? by Penny

Penny — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 17:16:14 +0000

If I attend or have a party, or if I go on a weekend with a group, or even if I just attend a meeting, I tend to be noticeable. Sometimes loud. Afterwards, I am plagued with worry, replaying the scenes over and over in my mind. I worry about what other people think, how they perceive me, and that is reflected in my behavior from that point on. Then people really do reject me and I get severely depressed. I know, in my heart, I am a good person. I am caring (sometimes too much and I push my views on unwilling recipients). This has been happening for my whole life. I’m over 50. When this happens, I start to have suicidal thoughts. I try to think of all the blessings in my life (there are so many). But I still torture myself with these thoughts.