Comments on: Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable? http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/ Stress Management and Confidence Consultant and Speaker Massachusetts Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:52:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Juline Godin http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-1008 Juline Godin Fri, 23 Apr 2010 13:24:17 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-1008 Hi Stacey. This is my first visit to your Blog and I think it is wonderful! This piece on being vulnerable really resonates with me. As a women in business, I find that at times we work hard NOT to be vulnerable so we are taken seriously and are seen as assertive leaders. Many of the women executives that I work with talk about this often. This piece was a great reminder that being vulnerable can lead to more awareness of oneself and not to mention an openness to others. Thank You for this! Hi Stacey. This is my first visit to your Blog and I think it is wonderful! This piece on being vulnerable really resonates with me. As a women in business, I find that at times we work hard NOT to be vulnerable so we are taken seriously and are seen as assertive leaders. Many of the women executives that I work with talk about this often. This piece was a great reminder that being vulnerable can lead to more awareness of oneself and not to mention an openness to others. Thank You for this!

]]> By: Daily Spiritual Tools http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-991 Daily Spiritual Tools Wed, 21 Apr 2010 02:56:02 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-991 When I was young vulnerabilty was a weakness that I was supposed to correct. As a woman of 50 plus years I find that being open and able to receive whatever life sends my way is not a weakness but a strength. I am glad to experience life as it comes and am open to all answers, positive and negative. I love to be connected to my heart, the inner Spirit that guides me. Thanks for this reminder. Namaste, Sherry (I just wrote a post called "The "I" who Observes Me" which you may enjoy.) <a href="http://www.dailyspiritualtools.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Daily Spiritual Tools</a> When I was young vulnerabilty was a weakness that I was supposed to correct. As a woman of 50 plus years I find that being open and able to receive whatever life sends my way is not a weakness but a strength. I am glad to experience life as it comes and am open to all answers, positive and negative. I love to be connected to my heart, the inner Spirit that guides me. Thanks for this reminder. Namaste, Sherry (I just wrote a post called “The “I” who Observes Me” which you may enjoy.)
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]]> By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-924 Karl Staib - Work Happy Now Tue, 06 Apr 2010 02:50:20 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-924 I try to be vulnerable, but I don't always succeed. There is this need to protect my ego. It's a strong habit. I've worked on being more willing to laugh at myself. If I mess up I laugh instead of being a big bully to myself. Over these past few years I've gotten better, but still have a long way to go. I try to be vulnerable, but I don’t always succeed. There is this need to protect my ego. It’s a strong habit.

I’ve worked on being more willing to laugh at myself. If I mess up I laugh instead of being a big bully to myself. Over these past few years I’ve gotten better, but still have a long way to go.

]]> By: Stacey Shipman http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-918 Stacey Shipman Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:42:36 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-918 Hi Chris - Yes, when I finally accepted that as my "defense" it was liberating. The awareness was key. Hi Hilary - yes, in the moment it stings a little! But if we're able to realize that and then see what we learned, it helps! Hi Lance - You bring up a good point..."thinking"...is often the root of so much fear! Hi Evita, I like how you put it - "interact with life in the fullest of ways and I like that" - I like that. Hi Megan - I can relate to the harsh critic. I love how you ended your comment...it is why I use a heart logo and what Feel Good Living is all about! Have a perfect weekend yourself! Hi Chris – Yes, when I finally accepted that as my “defense” it was liberating. The awareness was key.

Hi Hilary – yes, in the moment it stings a little! But if we’re able to realize that and then see what we learned, it helps!

Hi Lance – You bring up a good point…”thinking”…is often the root of so much fear!

Hi Evita, I like how you put it – “interact with life in the fullest of ways and I like that” – I like that.

Hi Megan – I can relate to the harsh critic. I love how you ended your comment…it is why I use a heart logo and what Feel Good Living is all about! Have a perfect weekend yourself!

]]> By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-917 Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord Fri, 02 Apr 2010 11:10:04 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-917 Stacey, this is such a beautiful and well written piece. Thank you for taking the time to express something so poignant. For me, it's also relevant. I, too, spent more than a decade building a tough exterior, which manifested through physical exercise, muscles and "toughness." Opening myself up --- even when I thought I was doing it --- rarely happened. I just didn't understand what being open and vulnerable was all about. Perhaps I still struggle with this in some ways, although I know I'm opening more and more. I'm allowing myself to be vulnerable TO myself... To that harsh inner critic. It's a process, but one that reaps huge rewards. When I lead with my heart, life just feels better. Feel Good Living! And I'm learning that hearts are tougher than we give them credit for. They are, after all, the muscles that keep us moving in this life. (smile) Be well and enjoy a perfect weekend! Stacey, this is such a beautiful and well written piece. Thank you for taking the time to express something so poignant. For me, it’s also relevant. I, too, spent more than a decade building a tough exterior, which manifested through physical exercise, muscles and “toughness.” Opening myself up — even when I thought I was doing it — rarely happened. I just didn’t understand what being open and vulnerable was all about. Perhaps I still struggle with this in some ways, although I know I’m opening more and more. I’m allowing myself to be vulnerable TO myself… To that harsh inner critic. It’s a process, but one that reaps huge rewards. When I lead with my heart, life just feels better. Feel Good Living! And I’m learning that hearts are tougher than we give them credit for. They are, after all, the muscles that keep us moving in this life. (smile)

Be well and enjoy a perfect weekend!

]]> By: Evita http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-915 Evita Fri, 02 Apr 2010 01:01:49 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-915 Hi Stacey I can so relate to this. I have always been so independent that I too was for years living in a way that I was not vulnerable. Well what life taught me is that as much as we try to protect ourselves, or put up a shield there are still vulnerabilities, like falling in love with someone. But as I grew up and made sense of all this, I realized that as long as we are conscious, yes, it is okay to be vulnerable, because vulnerable does not have to mean weak. It just means that we allow ourselves to interact with life in the fullest of ways and I like that :) Hi Stacey

I can so relate to this. I have always been so independent that I too was for years living in a way that I was not vulnerable. Well what life taught me is that as much as we try to protect ourselves, or put up a shield there are still vulnerabilities, like falling in love with someone.

But as I grew up and made sense of all this, I realized that as long as we are conscious, yes, it is okay to be vulnerable, because vulnerable does not have to mean weak. It just means that we allow ourselves to interact with life in the fullest of ways and I like that :)

]]> By: Lance http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-914 Lance Thu, 01 Apr 2010 09:55:27 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-914 Hmmm....being vulnerable.... I think of the times I have allowed myself to be vulnerable, and how really it wasn't that bad. And it has just usually been me "thinking" it's sooo bad. So....protection mode, then. Do I spend any time there? (honest answer???) Yes. (not that I want to admit it...) Probably something to dig into there, eh.... And - Stacey - I love the honesty you have shared in this post... Hmmm….being vulnerable….

I think of the times I have allowed myself to be vulnerable, and how really it wasn’t that bad. And it has just usually been me “thinking” it’s sooo bad. So….protection mode, then. Do I spend any time there? (honest answer???) Yes. (not that I want to admit it…) Probably something to dig into there, eh….

And – Stacey – I love the honesty you have shared in this post…

]]> By: Hilary http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-913 Hilary Thu, 01 Apr 2010 07:17:03 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-913 Hi Stacey .. it's good to know how we can help ourselves .. keep our respect and confidence. Relaxation and just being in control of our core, breathing as we go through life - will give us peace in our hearts .. and we are who we are .. that's important - as you managed to do with your election - not then, but later .. we learn so much from these experiences. Thank you .. Hilary Hi Stacey .. it’s good to know how we can help ourselves .. keep our respect and confidence. Relaxation and just being in control of our core, breathing as we go through life – will give us peace in our hearts .. and we are who we are .. that’s important – as you managed to do with your election – not then, but later .. we learn so much from these experiences. Thank you .. Hilary

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]]> By: Chris Edgar http://staceyshipman.com/2010/03/31/do-you-allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/comment-page-1/#comment-910 Chris Edgar Wed, 31 Mar 2010 21:34:09 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=1350#comment-910 Thanks for this -- I can relate to that experience of using exercise -- in my case, building up muscle and doing martial arts, and so on -- as a way to feel protected, like "no one will disrespect me again." I think a lot of men in particular experience that need. Just admitting that, I've found, feels liberating and relaxing. Thanks for this — I can relate to that experience of using exercise — in my case, building up muscle and doing martial arts, and so on — as a way to feel protected, like “no one will disrespect me again.” I think a lot of men in particular experience that need. Just admitting that, I’ve found, feels liberating and relaxing.

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