Comments on: Feel Good Friday: Lend a Helping Hand

By: Stacey Shipman

Stacey Shipman — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 22:18:24 +0000

Megan – I agree acting without an agenda is needed now more than ever. Wanting something in return is an attachment we need to let go of.

Evita – Thank you. I do believe in practicing what we preach…though challenging – is important to really make a difference.

Karl – you nailed it with the word connection. We are not alone here and all need someone to depend on.

Tess – Yes, the list of giving is endless. I was told any expectation is an attachment…and I continuously work to let go of many attachments I’ve held on to in the past.

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 22:01:14 +0000

The only way we keep our ego out of our giving is to give anonymously or to give without expecting anything in return. Someone once told me wanting or expecting a thank you card was an attachment.

I regularly give my time, talent and money. I believe it has to a lot to do with my happiness.

We have so much to give, a helping hand, a shoulder to lean on, a smile, a kind word, the gift of listening, love, the benefit of the doubt…the list is endless.

By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now

Karl Staib - Work Happy Now — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 20:33:16 +0000

By thinking about other people and what they need we can magnify our happiness. We stop trying to be happy through selfish needs and try to connect with a larger purpose.

I helped someone by giving them free work happiness advice. They really appreciated it.

By: Evita

Evita — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 16:34:07 +0000

Beautiful messages Stacey and I love when we put our “talk” into our “walk” and take action on things. While it is nice to absorb all sorts of wisdom and life lessons, unless we put them into practical terms, how much are they really worth?

I so second all that you said. The cause especially dear to my heart at the moment is helping the people of Haiti and I am glad you also are encouraging others to grow in compassion and extend their services in any way they can too.

By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord

Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 15:27:12 +0000

Stacey, I love this post and think it shares a valuable lesson that could help change the world, one small act of kindness at a time. I was talking to someone last week about the idea of acting without an agenda. I think that’s what selflessness is all about. We do something, as you said, simply because it feels good or is the “right” (loving) thing to do. Not because of what we think we’ll get in return.

Even on our blogs, we have a chance to demonstrate this. A lot of times it’s easy to get caught up in the “I’ll leave a comment on their blog because I know they’ll leave one on mine.” Then if that person doesn’t, do we return to their blog at a later date to show support, or do we retreat and feel hurt, thinking we’d be wasting our time otherwise?

Acting without an agenda. Unconditional love. However we term it, it’s what this world needs now more than ever before.