Comments on: If It Weren’t For People, There Would Be No Stress http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/ Stress Management and Confidence Consultant and Speaker Massachusetts Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:52:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Stacey Shipman http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Stacey Shipman Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:27:04 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-156 Hi Cath - Absolutely, and isn't it an amazing feeling? It's very freeing. Thanks for stopping by! Hi Cath – Absolutely, and isn’t it an amazing feeling? It’s very freeing. Thanks for stopping by!

]]> By: Cath Lawson http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-155 Cath Lawson Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:43:13 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-155 Hi Stacey - This is so true. The way we interact and react to people is important. There are certain people who used to make me feel stressed out. But I found that if i modified they way i reacted to them, I felt much better. Hi Stacey – This is so true. The way we interact and react to people is important. There are certain people who used to make me feel stressed out. But I found that if i modified they way i reacted to them, I felt much better.

]]> By: stress management techniques http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-153 stress management techniques Thu, 19 Nov 2009 06:07:34 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-153 This is something awesome realization Stacey! I think a common mis-approach..It seems being surprised that life is messy. We get really bent out of whack. As far as my experience,laughter has helped me to take more things in step..that is really stressful or challenging.” This feels healthy for me and like I am better able to find a way through the experience with grace. This is something awesome realization Stacey!

I think a common mis-approach..It seems being surprised that life is messy. We get really bent out of whack. As far as my experience,laughter has helped me to take more things in step..that is really stressful or challenging.”
This feels healthy for me and like I am better able to find a way through the experience with grace.

]]> By: Stacey Shipman http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Stacey Shipman Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:31:02 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-150 Katie - Being surprised that life is messy - yes, that's a great way to put it. We have a hard time dealing with change. Megan - Stress in thoughts, absolutely a big cause of overwhelm. I think every opportunity is one for learning, no matter how it makes us feel. Chris - Definitely the external world can trigger the stress, but we need to recognize it in ourselves to make any modifications. Karl - Definitely - we need to meet people where they are, meet ourselves where we are and open ourselves up to compassion. Hi Steven - Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment! I definitely believe it's in the reaction. Hi Keith - I hear you 100%. I'm not perfect either, hey we're all human! But my interactions are much healthier and enjoyable as well. Katie – Being surprised that life is messy – yes, that’s a great way to put it. We have a hard time dealing with change.

Megan – Stress in thoughts, absolutely a big cause of overwhelm. I think every opportunity is one for learning, no matter how it makes us feel.

Chris – Definitely the external world can trigger the stress, but we need to recognize it in ourselves to make any modifications.

Karl – Definitely – we need to meet people where they are, meet ourselves where we are and open ourselves up to compassion.

Hi Steven – Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment! I definitely believe it’s in the reaction.

Hi Keith – I hear you 100%. I’m not perfect either, hey we’re all human! But my interactions are much healthier and enjoyable as well.

]]> By: Keith http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-149 Keith Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:13:45 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-149 Hi Stacey, I am with you all the way on this one. I definitely used to think that others were the source of my stress and/or frustration. Thankfully, though it took years, I no longer feel that way. I now know that I choose how I respond to people and situations. It isn't what happens to me in life but rather how I perceive what happens to me. I cannot say I have perfected this because I have not, but I can say that more often than not I am without stress. I love interacting with others and I definitely get more out of life nowadays. Thank you Hi Stacey,

I am with you all the way on this one. I definitely used to think that others were the source of my stress and/or frustration. Thankfully, though it took years, I no longer feel that way. I now know that I choose how I respond to people and situations. It isn’t what happens to me in life but rather how I perceive what happens to me. I cannot say I have perfected this because I have not, but I can say that more often than not I am without stress. I love interacting with others and I definitely get more out of life nowadays.

Thank you

]]> By: Steven Handel http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-148 Steven Handel Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:44:59 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-148 Great post! I completely agree - stress can come from how we react to stimuli, not necessarily the stimulus itself. If we build equanimity towards life's stress then we can be better focused when we act and make decisions. Thanks, I'm looking forward to reading more in the future. Great post! I completely agree – stress can come from how we react to stimuli, not necessarily the stimulus itself. If we build equanimity towards life’s stress then we can be better focused when we act and make decisions. Thanks, I’m looking forward to reading more in the future.

]]> By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-145 Karl Staib - Work Happy Now Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:06:44 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-145 I agree with Chris. It's how we create our environment that dictates how we feel. No one can make me feel ashamed. Only I can do that. I know it's difficult dealing with lousy people. I've been there. But we have to use these people as a way to be compassionate and improve our intelligence. If we can't find a way to create a curiosity within ourselves we will always get pushed around my other people. I agree with Chris. It’s how we create our environment that dictates how we feel. No one can make me feel ashamed. Only I can do that.

I know it’s difficult dealing with lousy people. I’ve been there. But we have to use these people as a way to be compassionate and improve our intelligence. If we can’t find a way to create a curiosity within ourselves we will always get pushed around my other people.

]]> By: Chris Edgar http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Chris Edgar Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:31:55 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-144 Hi Stacey -- I think that's an important thing to keep in mind -- that stress is a feeling that occurs in our own bodies, not an event that happens out in the world. I get the sense that, if we become aware of the usually unconscious ways that our bodies produce stress, we gain a lot more choice around how we react. Hi Stacey — I think that’s an important thing to keep in mind — that stress is a feeling that occurs in our own bodies, not an event that happens out in the world. I get the sense that, if we become aware of the usually unconscious ways that our bodies produce stress, we gain a lot more choice around how we react.

]]> By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-143 Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:54:39 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-143 I definitely think we create our own stress regardless of whether people are around or not. When I'm isolated and doing my own thing for days on end (which happens sometimes!), I create stress through my thoughts. Equally so, there were times in my former job when I felt stress from my interactions. I like how you pointed out that it's all in how we think about other people or situations, though. Our thoughts are what create stress, not people. Granted, sometimes we're surrounded by people who are not very uplifting, yet as you also said, those people can be our greatest teachers if we open our minds to them. Our points of stress are opportunities for learning and growth. I definitely think we create our own stress regardless of whether people are around or not. When I’m isolated and doing my own thing for days on end (which happens sometimes!), I create stress through my thoughts. Equally so, there were times in my former job when I felt stress from my interactions. I like how you pointed out that it’s all in how we think about other people or situations, though. Our thoughts are what create stress, not people.
Granted, sometimes we’re surrounded by people who are not very uplifting, yet as you also said, those people can be our greatest teachers if we open our minds to them. Our points of stress are opportunities for learning and growth.

]]> By: Katie West/The Levity Coach http://staceyshipman.com/2009/11/13/if-it-werent-for-people-there-would-be-no-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-142 Katie West/The Levity Coach Sat, 14 Nov 2009 17:06:31 +0000 http://staceyshipman.com/?p=412#comment-142 Stacey I am totally on board with what you are saying. WE cause our stress. That is not saying that there are not challenging times we face that provide the opportunity for stress, but I believe that those moments also provide the opportunities for growth, learning, and inner discovery...why else are we here on this planet? I think a common mis-approach I see is being surprised that life is messy. We get really bent out of whack. My practice of laughter has helped me take more things in stride and say "Oh, ha ha....that is really stressful or challenging." This feels healthy for me and like I am better able to find a way through the experience with grace. Fab post! Stacey
I am totally on board with what you are saying. WE cause our stress. That is not saying that there are not challenging times we face that provide the opportunity for stress, but I believe that those moments also provide the opportunities for growth, learning, and inner discovery…why else are we here on this planet?
I think a common mis-approach I see is being surprised that life is messy. We get really bent out of whack. My practice of laughter has helped me take more things in stride and say “Oh, ha ha….that is really stressful or challenging.” This feels healthy for me and like I am better able to find a way through the experience with grace.
Fab post!

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